Wednesday, May 5, 2010


Anything big, starts small. When you are in a group; you are not there because your want to make your parents happy or because everybody is doing so or because it is the cool thing; it behoves on you to give it your best. Some groups are bound to failure because members are not willing to make sacrifices because of their egos. Others fail because everyone wants to lead everyone. It is not going to work in that way. In everything, work at it as if working for God and not man. Do not expect praise for what you know to be a sacrifice but others see as nothing. But be careful not to be caught in the trap of telling every one of the sacrifices you make; we do not want to hear it. Move on or shove off. Others may be making equally or even bigger sacrifices, and are silent about it.
Everyone has a best day; a day, in which everything is just great. Remember someone might resent you for that. On someone’s best day, do not get angry at the person, after all, yours is on its way. If you do not tolerate my joyful mood, why should I yours?
Anyone who is a leader knows for a fact that he or she is a leader. Please, do not rub it in. I mean, do not hype yourself so much that you become like the peacock displaying its finely arranged feathers. We have followers who do not know they are followers. This type of followers I call ‘wonna-be-leaders’. They think themselves better than their leaders. Sometimes this may be true, but know your leader, and leaders know your people and utilize their skills. After all, brains ‘no dey your head alone’. But know this, in spite of the fact there are other leaders within your leadership, understand that not everyone will appreciate your point of view. You cannot be right all the time. In the words of C.S Lewis, “May God’s grace give you the necessary humility. Try not to think-much less, speak of their sins. One’s own are a much more profitable theme! And if on consideration, one can find no faults on one’s own side, then cry for mercy: for this must be a most dangerous delusion.”(Emphasis, my own)
When a suggestion given by you as the solution to tackle an issue is not taken, do not fret about it. You know your solution is the best one. They do not possess the knowledge you have, but be open to new things. Do not rub salt into the wound when the way they chose to resolve the issue does not work out. Ha, you say, I know, it is extremely hard not to gloat. Help out, after all you are part of the group and it affects you as well, even though you did not agree with the decision. No one is going to differentiate you from your group.
You are like peas in a pod when you belong to a group. That is why the choice of membership of a group is yours to make: not your parents, not your friends or even the fact that it will make you look cool. Take pride in the fact that you are different. Know when to bland in and when to be a sheep among goats. It has never served anyone well to always be the one who does the right things, but it does pay in the end; doing the right thing. When? That is up to you. Do you get angry at anything that arouses your displeasure? Come on; loosen up a bit, dear, it isn’t the end of the world. Do not give people the ammunition to throw back at you again. You anger does exactly that.

*This was written during SRC elections in my second year, second semester, at the university.
I was then contemplating whether I should vie for a position. I decided not to in the end.

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